It's a scary thought... I might be forced to date a White man.
Where exactly are the non-creepy, single Black men with 0 to 2 kids, jobs and a positive image of themselves? Where are they? Outer-space? Where?
That's where I want to be. Right there, on that planet.
Can I get an "Amen!" from the choir, please?
Ok, that may or may not be the sermon that you are interested in, but it's the one I'm preaching about tonight. If you're wondering where I meet the dysfunctional guys I meet, most of them are online. Others I meet when I'm out and about, but the majority of them are online.
I'm big on meeting people online, but why, WHY, are a lot of the guys I meet so strange? From straight up liars and potential sex offenders to dudes who are ready to jump into a relationship and meet your parents after three days. (Note: Not three dates, three DAYS!!)
Many people frown upon the online dating scene, but it works for me because I'm not a "clubber." I've been to the library and didn't see anybody there I was interested in and I'm so "in the zone" at Church, I'm not looking. (I gotta praise the Lawd, I can't be looking for guys... LOL!)
So, here's where the White man comes in. I'm sitting at a bar on Friday talking to a girl I work with, who is White, and I'm she asks me if I'd ever date anyone from work. I say, "Yes, but there is no one at the office I'd want to date." What I really should have said is, "You know there are only 12 Black people in the office, and half of them are not attractive and/or married." Now when she asked me that I started thinking, theoretically of course, about what men really are available at work. All of the ones I could think of were White. Not necessarily unattractive, actually some are very attractive, but they are White. I'm one of those Black women who see Black men and White men. Period. A female friend of mine said, "Girl, at this point, I just see men." At that time, I said good for her but I couldn't see it that way. I think I'm beginning to see things differently.
Now the thing that keeps me on the Black side of the fence is the look I imagine on my Daddy's face when I stroll into his house with Vanilla Ice/Justin Timberlake on my arm. LOL!! I'm sure "slack-jawed" is an understatement for the expression that will take over his face.
Seriously, I'm really wondering if I'm going to have to date outside of my race. And I'm wondering if I'll have as big of a problem with it as I think I will. Well, I'm sure if the right White guy came along I wouldn't even realize at first, I don't know. Just in case you are wondering, yes, I did see Something New, and I liked it. I thought it had some valid points and that it was presented well.
Anyway, I'm gonna calm it down but I just had to get that off my chest. :-)
Peace and blessings all around!!
That's where I want to be. Right there, on that planet.
Can I get an "Amen!" from the choir, please?
Ok, that may or may not be the sermon that you are interested in, but it's the one I'm preaching about tonight. If you're wondering where I meet the dysfunctional guys I meet, most of them are online. Others I meet when I'm out and about, but the majority of them are online.
I'm big on meeting people online, but why, WHY, are a lot of the guys I meet so strange? From straight up liars and potential sex offenders to dudes who are ready to jump into a relationship and meet your parents after three days. (Note: Not three dates, three DAYS!!)
Many people frown upon the online dating scene, but it works for me because I'm not a "clubber." I've been to the library and didn't see anybody there I was interested in and I'm so "in the zone" at Church, I'm not looking. (I gotta praise the Lawd, I can't be looking for guys... LOL!)
So, here's where the White man comes in. I'm sitting at a bar on Friday talking to a girl I work with, who is White, and I'm she asks me if I'd ever date anyone from work. I say, "Yes, but there is no one at the office I'd want to date." What I really should have said is, "You know there are only 12 Black people in the office, and half of them are not attractive and/or married." Now when she asked me that I started thinking, theoretically of course, about what men really are available at work. All of the ones I could think of were White. Not necessarily unattractive, actually some are very attractive, but they are White. I'm one of those Black women who see Black men and White men. Period. A female friend of mine said, "Girl, at this point, I just see men." At that time, I said good for her but I couldn't see it that way. I think I'm beginning to see things differently.
Now the thing that keeps me on the Black side of the fence is the look I imagine on my Daddy's face when I stroll into his house with Vanilla Ice/Justin Timberlake on my arm. LOL!! I'm sure "slack-jawed" is an understatement for the expression that will take over his face.
Seriously, I'm really wondering if I'm going to have to date outside of my race. And I'm wondering if I'll have as big of a problem with it as I think I will. Well, I'm sure if the right White guy came along I wouldn't even realize at first, I don't know. Just in case you are wondering, yes, I did see Something New, and I liked it. I thought it had some valid points and that it was presented well.
Anyway, I'm gonna calm it down but I just had to get that off my chest. :-)
Peace and blessings all around!!
posted by Ms. Write at 10:22 PM
4 Comments:
White or black, relationship issues are everywhere. In this spiritual realm we are now in, the Enemy works on the heart of relationships, which are our foundations, and helps to put division between us.
Sadly, regardless of race there will still be challenges.
You already know where I stand on this. I really think we women limit ourselves when it comes to dating. You have to have options. Whether that be different races or various backgrounds. You get tired of dealing with the same ole same ole after a while and need some thing new. Why not try it? If it doesn't work for you, move on. At least you tried, right? Of course, I'm not trying to talk you into dating a white man. I'm just giving my 2 cents or 3. :-)
well I have not met a white dude I am attracted to like that... BUT you know I have been meeting nothing but BUSTAS and i didn't meet any of them online so i guess weirdos are everywhere. anyway, I say don't limit yourself but don't force it either...
I have never been out with a white man and I think I would feel like Sanaa Lathan did on that movie "Something New" when they went to Starbucks.
But I agree with you where have all the good men gone?
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